Today Im keeping it short and sweet and bringing you 3 questions to ask your partner that we believe will make your relationship better. We are constantly communicating, asking questions and following up to dig a little deeper. From day one, we talked about everything. Nothing was really off limits and we believe that is part of the reason we thrive more than we struggle.
Its a weird thing sort of. On our first date, we just talked and talked for hours. We were immediately open with one another and that really paved the way for us in our relationship and now, marriage to discuss all topics, whether they be intimate, challenging, or even a bit frustrating. I consider us to be lucky, that we are both pretty self aware and lean on the higher side with our EQs (emotional intelligence). But thats not to say that we didn’t both have to learn to be this way.
We’ve both had difficult relationships in the past, and we happened to meet when we were already past that 30 year threshold. Its not a secret number or anything, but with age, truly does come wisdom sometimes. And in our cases, it came with years of either dysfunctional, frustrating, or even damaging relationships. Luckily, we both were in a place when we met, that allowed us to understand the importance of not repeating the past. We each knew what we wanted and needed in a partner, and more importantly, we knew our own strengths, weaknesses, and areas where we could improve.
Communication was and is high on both of our lists of needs. And when we met, we just clicked and everything was put on the table. You don’t have to do the same thing or have had the same path to find a stride in your communication, though. Its all about getting comfortable with communication and starting to view it as a natural part of your relationship. Something that even enhances your relationship. Communication does’t have to be scary or hard even. It can be a way to bond, learn, and get closer to your partner.
So without further ado, here are the 3 questions that we think can totally improve your relationship!
- What are some of the things that we used to do that you would like to do again? What did you most enjoy about those things?
- What things about our life together make you happy? How frequently do you notice those things?
- What’s something you’d like to do together that we’ve never done? What makes it so inviting to you?
These are all open ended questions with positive connotations/ responses right? Nothing to be afraid of here. But these can be very telling questions so be ready to truly listen. If your relationship is going through a tough spot, these are questions that can really equip you with information that can assist you with hitting that reset button and finding some pleasure again. And if your relationship is already thriving, then these are another great way to continue bonding and building on that bond.
Great, thank you.